Day 14 – Sobriety: Why Choose to be (stay) sober?

In the last year, I couldn’t make it one week without drinking. I would say “okay, one week (or two, or 5 days, or name your time frame) – no booze. If I can’t do that, then I must have a problem…” I can’t be the only person that has said this – made “deals”Continue reading “Day 14 – Sobriety: Why Choose to be (stay) sober?”

Day 12 – Sobriety and Alcohol Math

I was thinking about the first time I tried to quit drinking (for 28 days). It didn’t work out brilliantly for me, but it did give me an idea of what to expect on this next leg of the journey. It also gave me a little insight into some alcohol math. What is alcohol math?Continue reading “Day 12 – Sobriety and Alcohol Math”

Day 8 – Sobriety as background noise

As a newly sober person, I think every day about not drinking. I think about it every single fucking day. Makes me tired. It occurs to me that a person with a “healthy” relationship with alcohol never think about “not” drinking. They just do or don’t. Either way it is of little to no consequenceContinue reading “Day 8 – Sobriety as background noise”

Day 7 – Sobriety: 3 things I learned in the first week

Only I control my sobriety. I am in control of my sobriety. No one can do this for me. No one can force me to choose not to drink. My reasons for drinking or not drinking are mine alone. It is not up to anyone else’s opinion about how much I drink or whether itContinue reading “Day 7 – Sobriety: 3 things I learned in the first week”

Day 6 – Sobriety, empathy for others, and learning a new dance

Day 6. Almost a week. Feeling strong. Feeling resolute. I know I don’t have this beat yet, but today I am feeling juiced up and ready to go. I am surrounded by people who love and care for me, and are supportive of my journey. I am also acutely aware that my journey may makeContinue reading “Day 6 – Sobriety, empathy for others, and learning a new dance”

Day 5 – Sobriety and the subtle art of addressing all the shit I was avoiding in my life while I was busy drinking…

The beautiful thing about drinking a lot of alcohol is that it gives you the illusion that you are temporarily removed you from all the responsibilities in your life that are weighing you down. You can be blissfully unaware that your life is falling apart around you. The downside is that when you are doneContinue reading “Day 5 – Sobriety and the subtle art of addressing all the shit I was avoiding in my life while I was busy drinking…”

Day 4 – Sobriety: How do you know when you get there?

Now on my fourth day sober and feeling a little overwhelmed by the journey ahead of me. For the past few days, I have felt this false sense of bravado – like I have this thing licked… Like I’m just really gonna kick this thing right in the dick. As a strong, independent woman, IContinue reading “Day 4 – Sobriety: How do you know when you get there?”

Day 3 – About last night…

My first weekend evening on this new journey. Last night, Friday night, was my first night of non-drinking with others who were drinking. I went with a to a friend’s house to celebrated his daughter’s birthday. There were a few little girls there. We made sushi and cake. Fortunately it was not a purely “adult”Continue reading “Day 3 – About last night…”

Day 2- Living Sober in a Drunken World

As I navigate an old world as a new me, I have concerns that my relationships will be affected by my choice to be sober. Alcohol is everywhere in our society. It is present at every social event, even in places where it would seem out of place, (baby showers, kids birthdays). It is almostContinue reading “Day 2- Living Sober in a Drunken World”